Friday, March 28, 2025

365 days - gone to long

 


365 days - gone to long


     I am trying to find the words to explain emotions & how I feel about today and the next couple of days.   I'm trying to explain my emotions with it being a year since I lost Timmy.  When people say that you will be okay.  Sorry no the flip you will not be okay.  It may get better.   But not right now.  That day is played over & over inside my head.  When you see your spouse take their last breath.  When the doctor's or nurse's come in & say "I'm sorry for your loss!"

     I have tried to put it in another part of my mind.  But everytime, I open my car door & look down at the pavement or gravel.   No matter where I am at parking my car. I am looking for Timmy to be there.  I know that sounds crazy.   But now it's a habit.  

     I want to see his face.  I want to hear his voice & I want him to walk through the door.   But I know that's not going to happen.   The last year has been an emotional living h--l. 

     It's been day by day. Which is?

1 year - 12 months

1 year - 365 days

1 year - 52.143 weeks 

1 year - 8, 760 hours

1 year- 525,600 minutes 

1 year- 31,536,000 seconds


      I know some people may say that's not alot.   But to someone who has lost a spouse or a love one it is.  

     I found this song.  And if you listen to the words, it describes Timmy very well. It is "Angel" by Beverly Mitchell.  If you have never heard this song, here are the words to it.

Angel

Beverly Mitchell 

Have you ever met an Angel 
Whose smile is like the sun
Whose laugh is like a melody 
That reaches everyone.

Have you ever hugged an Angel 
Swept up in their embrace
I swear there's nothing
 In this world that makes
You feel that safe.

Have you ever really loved an Angel 
Once you have you'll never 
Be the same again. 
Have you ever had to let 
Go of an Angel
Say goodbye, let 'em fly
My Angel
My Best friend 

Have you felt the strength 
Of an angel
When you need it the most
Lifted by those gentle wings
You know you're not alone.
Every now & then I feel the peace inside 
Wherever life may take me, I'm guided by that light

Have you ever really loved an Angel
Once you have you'll never be the same again
Have you ever had to let go of an Angel
Say goodbye, let 'em fly
My Angel
My Best friend 

Cause I have really loved an Angel
How could I ever be the same
Cause I have had to let go of my Angel 
Say goodbye, let 'em fly
My Angel 
My Best friend 

Please continue to pray for us as we continue to honor Timmy.  



Monday, March 10, 2025

Happy Heavenly Birthday, Timmy!



 Happy Heavenly Birthday, Timmy!







     I didn't realize that last year was the last time, we would celebrate your birthday.   For someone who has lost a spouse go on to celebrate their birthday after their passing.  It's hard to explain how I am feeling about this and we are going to do.   I do know that I will get a cake of some sort.  We will get a balloon and place it over at your spot. 


     I pretty sure you are celebrating with everyone up there and watching over us. I miss you so much.   I love you, Timmy.  


     Please pray for us as we figure everything out.  



Friday, February 28, 2025

11 months

 


11 months 


     I spoke with a first responder last night who I have known for almost all my life.   He asked me, how are you doing?  I told him, okay! People say that it's going to get better.  But Yeah, NO!!!!!!!!!   He said it gets tolerable.  I have never heard anyone say that before.  But it's been hard lately.  



     In my opinion the last 11 months have been a living h--l.  I have been experiencing a lot of 1st by myself.  And I know it's a learning process.  It's creepy and scary not knowing what I am doing.  Especially getting my taxes done.  My friend has told me, Day by day.  



    As I look at the date for today it's hard to believe that it's been 11 months since you became my guardian angel.   That's still hard for me to say.  But I know you are watching down & checking in on us.  With several things have changed.   But we got this.  


11 months - 47.798 weeks

11 months  - 334.584 days 

11 months  - 8030.009 hours 

11 months  - 481800.528 minutes 

11 months  - 28908031.0 seconds 


     We have several things coming up.  Makenna's birthday. Both Kaleb and I are volunteering at Station 13 now with the auxiliary.  Saturday is the BBQ supper.  Both Kaleb and I are working it.  Kaleb also got invited to Prom this year.  He accepted.  I know you are proud of Kaleb and how he has stepped up.   I miss you so much.  I will continue to honor you in everything that Kaleb & I do.






 


Please continue to pray for us as the next couple of months will be rough.  




Wednesday, January 29, 2025

10 months- I'm trying.

 10 months - I'm trying



     Ok, I know these blog post are getting repeative & harder to do.   But it's hard to explain 10 months of grief to someone who is never experienced a loss of a partner or spouse. But I'm going to continue on doing this.  Because I can explain more on paper than verbally & I can continue to remember Timmy with all kinds of stories. 





     I have had an emotional numbness of a week, which stinks.  Then I slowly figured out or tried to figure out why?  Then I realized it's always the week before or the week of, that I get this way.  It's been a long, long 10 months.   

10 months = 43, 452 weeks 

10 months = 304.167 days

10 months = 7300.01 hours 

10 months  = 438000 minutes 

10 months  = 26280028.2 seconds 

     Its been 10 months since I held your hand, heard your voice, smelled your deodorant, received a hug & seen you walk through the door. I guess no one understands that it's the little things.   The way you & Kaleb use to argue over the craziest things.  I have sensed you around a couple of times  ( ex: the bedroom door moving when no one is around, when the plastic little football fell out of a container sitting on your shot glasses with no one around, the last time was when I was in my car on lunch going to the store - no music on - then I pull in to parking lot at work and the radio comes on by itself.)






     With all that I have been through, I was asked this question & I had trouble answering it. But this is what I came up with. 


 Why would I say I'm proud of myself & my 3 reasons?

  1. I'm able to forgive other people- is because I  have learned to show empathy to the bullies that verbally bullied me. 
  2. I'm able to help other people- for the last 10 months I have learned so much by myself, about myself & my emotions.  I have also learned to share what I have been through & learned about this to other friends who have just lost their spouse.  So, I will share, encourage & listen to anyone who needs it.  I love to help people out there who is going through things that I have been through or still going through it.
  3. Continuously Journaling- I will continue to journal & express myself with my emotions & everything that I learn. 
     It's hard for me to say I'm proud of myself.   I been told.  But with my past, it's hard to believe.  I am trying to say that.  But it's very very hard. 

I want to thank everyone for their continued thoughts and prayers.  







Tuesday, December 31, 2024

Good bye 2024 & Hello 2025

 Goodbye 2024 & Hello 2025



     I don't know about everyone else.  But 2024 has been a hell of a year.  With it being the last day of the year, it is unreal.   I'm trying my hardest to go day by day.  I have stepped out of my comfort zone a lot lately. 


 

     I have tried to try new things.  Ex: hanging out with friends, getting a tattoo & trying to change my lifestyle.  I'm learning as I go being a widow and a single mother.  People may say they don't care about how I am feeling.   But I don't care.   I'm learning how to speak my mind.  But it's hard.  And I want back down.  










     I have been reminded to pick myself up, straighten my crown & find some good in the day. 
 

   


I pray everyone has a blessed, great & safe New Years.  




Saturday, December 28, 2024

9 months - emotional- physically & mentally

 



9 months - 


9 months ( equal)

39.107 weeks

273.931649 days

6570.007 hours

394200.432 minutes 

23652025.9 seconds

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     9 months is a long time.  It's a long time to hear your voice.  It's a long time to hold your hand.  It's a long time to see you walk in the door.   But I know you are watching over us.  Occasionally I feel like you are around us.  


     The last 9 months have been really emotional, physically & mentally exhausted for me.  Especially the last 2 months with Thanksgiving & Christmas.   And with New Year's day right around the corner.   I don't know how it's going to be.  We are trying our best, but for me it's really hard.  


     I can't explain what is going on inside my head.  I have been trying to open up to my friends.  But it's been hard expressing my feelings.   I will continue to express my feelings and talk about Timmy.   If you don't care, don't pay attention to what I say.  


Please continue to pray for us as we are trying to figure things out.  




Tuesday, December 24, 2024

Update on Dad- part 4


 Update on Dad- part 4

     He got his cleared by his cardiologists.  He is able to go back to work.  But he is having trouble with his left upper arm.  He has to be cleared fully, so he can get his DOT physical.  He is so ready to go back to work.   

     Thank you for everyone thoughts, prayers, text messages & phone calls checking in on Dad.

    Please continue to pray for us as we continue to find out what is going on with his arm.