Prayers for my Mom & Mother in law

 

Prayers for my Mom & Mother in law 

     My Mom has a lot of major health issues.  Her most recent issue is she has kidney disease.   The doctor didn't say what stage she was in.  But they did say they we're not going to do dialysis because she has Congested heart failure.   They don't want to put her through laying on her belly -4 hours a day for 4 days a week.  

  So basically if she is constant pain or can't be handle the pain.  The next thing is calling in hospice to see if it will help. 

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 With my Mother in law - Carolyn, she is doing good. She had an MRI done & they found a spot on her kidneys.  Both she & I went to her 1st appointment, it spot is 17mm or 1/2inch in size.  As of right now, theybwant to monitor her.  They want to have her come back in 4 months to get another scan done.  If nothing has changed they 6 months.   

  But if something changed then they will talk about the plan of action.   If not come back 9 months for a scan.  Same up to a year.  Their goal is to make it a yearly thing. 

So I will keep everyone posted on both ladies. 

Please say a prayer for all the family.  I am so overwhelmed with everything.  

Mental health issues/ The Holidays

 

Many people who have mental health issues, are not okay.  It is rough for someone to talk about what is going on inside their head.  If someone, wants to talk they don't know where to begin.  However, they beat around the bush.  Also the person may just shut down.  

Take it from someone who knows.  It's hard to open up and tell how you are feeling.  It's normal for me to say, I'm okay.  But actually I am not.  I try my best to have an upbeat attitude. 

I would love to spill my guts about the way I am feeling.   When I start, it may not be pretty.  I may have an a ugly cry.  But people might not care about what I have to say.   But you know what if I feel like talking I will.  And them I might let it tear me up.  

When I comes to the Holidays, it was easier when I was younger.  But now that I have other people depending on me it is even worse.  Someone with depression and anxiety during the holidays think about, "Am I going to have enough money to get the gifts for everyone?" "Are they going to like the gifts?" "If I get all the gifts, am I going to have enough money for the bills after?"  Those questions are just the start & not the only ones.  

As I sit her writing this, I'm trying not to tear up just thinking about those questions.   But it's true.  When I was growing up, it was rough on us.  We were blessed with extra help for the holidays.  We were grateful for the gifts & food.  

So, basically what I am asking for this holiday season.   If God places something on your heart to help someone in need, please do so.  You have know idea how it feels. 

I would like to thank everyone for listening to me vent.  I hope & pray everyone has a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

Update on Mom

 Update on Mom

     She is good in recovery.   She has to take it easy the next couple of days.   The doctor was pleased the way everything went.  She has an appointment for check up in a couple of days.   Please continue to pray for us as we work through this. 

 I will keep everyone updated. 

Prayers for Mom

 

Prayers for Mom

    Everyone knows Mom has health issues.   She has added 2 more to the list.  She has congested heart failure & is on oxygen 24/7, now.  Many of you know she has always been on the go.  Nothing slows her down.  

   She has been keeping a record of her weight gain & loss.  When her heart doctor saw the records.  She said, that she would be a great candidate for this procedure.  

 It is called a CARDIOMEMS HF system.   It is the size of a paper clip.  Which it is a remote heart failure monitoring system that enables earlier and more proactive treatment to slow down your heart failure progression and keep you out of the hospital.   It also includes a tiny pressure-sensing device that measures pressure changes and sends the data to you care team.  The sensor will be placed in the artery, where it remains permanently.  

  Her procedure is tomorrow morning.  Please say a prayer for Mom, the Family & everyone else who is involved in the procedure.  

  I will keep everyone updated. 

A very concerned parent

      

     As a parent of a high school student.  I am very concerned about his mental and emotional status everyday, while he is at school.  

     Now days, I have heard of so many  teenagers committing suicide or so many attempting suicide.  It breaks my heart to hear about those on the news or in articles on Facebook/ newspaper.  Depression and anxiety are a very serious issue in today's society.   But, people who have it really don't want to admit something is wrong.  Take it from someone who does have it.  You have very dark and gloomy days & other days you are in a good mood.   

     When I was younger,  I was verbally bullied at school.  My middle & high school years were the worst years of my life.   To my knowledge,  back then we didn't have this problem.   I don't think we understood why we were down in the dumps.  Just that people were saying words that were hurting me.   

     With me being verbally bullied,  I felt worthless, not loved & I was never happy.  I always wanted to be invisible.  I felt like no one cared for me.  I was always down in the dumps.  And to the day, I still feel like this.   

     If you know of someone who suffers from depression,  please keep a check on them?  Even if it is a message, "Hey, how is it going?"  That always helps. 

Please say a prayer for everyone that suffers from Depression, anxiety or any other mental health issues!  

Unexpected loss of a loved one

 

I really needed to do this. I'm sorry if I offend anyone. 

The unexpected loss of a loved one is hard for family members to explain and understand. But it's like a mack truck has hit you head on or you walk into oncoming traffic. I know it happens to people every hour of every day. When it does happen everyone is left in shock. Right now from my experience, you are questioning (all these different things.)  

But as someone who just lost her Uncle unexpectedly, I don't know if it has really set in. I haven't had a good cry. But it hurts really bad. And my heart is broken (3 times).  

What can I say about my Uncle Johnny. He was a loving, hard worker, caring, friendly, handsome, very strong willed man. He most of all loved his family. He would do anything for them. IE: ( dress up like Santa when your Big brother is already dressed up like him, when your niece has no one to practice walking down the aisle at her wedding rehearsal until Father of the Bride gets there, he would come to Grammie's house when it was cold outside to help cut down a Pecan tree and use only a drop cord & a chainsaw.) 

I just recently found out that he didn't go to his softball game until he got to see & hold his 1st niece. According to everyone, he would make a point to see me (when I was a baby), while I was at Grandma & Grandpa's house.

 

A couple of weekends ago, Grammie, Jake and I were watching home videos of You, Grandpa, Ann, Sherry & Clayton in a swimming pool. I felt like I wanted to cry. But I couldn't, I was laughing so hard my cheeks were hurting. Then we watched a couple of other ones. It was also very strange, but very unique that Jake was driving your truck over to Grammie's.  

I miss not seeing you go buy the daycare and toot the horn at me. I miss you criticizing how Grammie's Monthly Christmas tree. It's also hard not to call you and say, "Hey, Uncle Ho ho!" Joke between the both of us. You also encouraged me to start making Welcome signs, with different things on it.

I love you & I miss you so much.   Thank you for being my Uncle. 

Update #6

 Mom is coming home.   However she will be on oxygen for a month or so.  Yeah, some normalcy can get back in the house.  

Thank everyone for your prayers and support for Mom and all of the family. 

Update #5

 

Mom is still in the hospital.   She is still in pain.  She has had at least 20 lbs of fluid taking off of her.  She still has not had surgery.   On the other hand, she is bored out of her mind.   

Thank you for the continued prayers and support.  

Update #4

 She is still currently in the hospital.   She will be there to the middle of next week.   They still are draining the fluid off of her.  And her gallbladder surgery is on the back burner right now.   She is also bored out of her mind.   

If anyone knows her very well, she has to always be on the move.  Not sitting in the same place for a very long period of time.  Dad is going to see her tomorrow and I will find out more information and update you guys. 

Thank you for your continued support and prayers. 

Update #3

 Mom is hanging in there.   She has to have fluid drained from her stomach.   She is bored out of her mind.  Still no surgery. 

If anyone is interested, she is in room 3H02 at UNC Hillsborough Hospital.   

Update on Mom -#2

 

Just spoke with Dad, she is still at the main hospital.  Apparently while doing the heart catheter, the doctor found some fluid.  So they were trying to drain the extra fluid off.  Then she will get to go back to her hospital room at UNC Hillsborough hospital.   I guess she will be observed by the doctors.  Once she is out of the clear the she can have her gallbladder surgery.   Maybe tomorrow or Friday,  don't know yet.

Please continue to pray for us. 

Prayers for Mom

 

The last couple of weeks has been crazy.  Mom has been hurting in her belly area.  Dad took her to the ER - the first time.  They did ultrasounds and other test.  The doctors came to the conclusion that it was her gallbladder.   

They told her that they couldn't do anything for it right then.  She would have to get a consultation and a gi doctor.  That would be on the 17th of April - which is next week.   Then she went for a routine check up last Thursday.   The PA and Doctor didn't like the way she was breathing.   So the doctor called 911 and they transported her to the main campus of UNC hospital.   The doctors found she had a UTI, kidney stones, kidney infection and gallstones.   

Then this morning,  we were woke up to her crying and screaming.   She was saying that she couldn't do anything.   Dad ended up taking her to UNC hospital in Hillsborough.   They ended up admitting her.  They started running test.  The doctors wanted to run 2 big test - 1. Was a echo. 2. Was a heart catheter.  The doctors want to see if her heart is good to do the surgery.  However the Heart catheter test would be ran at the Main Hospital tomorrow morning @ 5:30 am.  Then she will be transported back to UNC Hillsborough for her gallbladder surgery. 

Please pray for mom, doctors and the family. 

Breaks my heart

 

The last couple of years has been really overwhelming in losing friends and family members, due to Cancer, Covid & unexpectedly.  I can't explain the way I am feeling this.  But, it is how I feel.  I know we are not promised tomorrow. 

I found out today that an acquaintance of mine from high school passed away last night.  When I found out I was in shock.  He was older than me,  but we talked in passing and I think we had classes together.  Being a freshman, in my opinion he was one of the big men on campus.  

Danny, you will surely be missed. 

  I just want to say, I love you, guys!  If you don't want to say it back, I understand.  

I know I always say, please pray for me and my family.   I would like for you to please pray for you friends & families that are going through some difficult times right now & in the future.  

Out with 2022 & in with 2023

There has only been a small group of people that has known about 2022 and what all has happened with the family.   Well 2022 for me was a living heck.  The beginning of the year was good.  Then around May & June, everything began to change.  For starters Kaleb turned 16 & got his level 2 license.  Which was awesome.   

Then is June it all started.  Heather- everyone knows has had 2 strokes.  Then in June, she had told one of her friends that we were not taking care of her needs.  That so called friend felt the need to call DSS.  And Heather was taken in to DSS protective custody.   But the problem was not us, it was that she didn't want to get it for herself.  She had become dependent on a couple of family members to help her out.  And when those family members, were not around, she chose not to help herself.   Which inturn, you can not make a grown up do something that they dont won't.   It was her choice not to take care of herself, eat or anything else.   All we could do was to suggest.  We had to go to several court dates & she is placed in an Assisted living facility in Roxboro,  NC.  That has lasted since August and currently she is still there.  With Heather where she is, she is suppose to be getting help.

During the whole 2022 year,  the whole family stayed well - no sickness.  Praise God.  

 I pray 2023 is going to be a great year. 

Please continue to pray for me and my family.